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Foster Readiness Quiz

If you’re here, you’re already taking a meaningful step.

The fact that you’re even taking this quiz says something about your heart. Foster care isn’t about having it all figured out, but it’s about being willing to learn and love well.

A quick note: This quiz is for reflection and encouragement. It isn’t professional, legal, or clinical advice, and it shouldn’t be used as the sole basis for becoming a foster parent. Your next best step is training and a conversation with a licensed agency like Sunrise Children's Services.

Question 1 of 15

If I fall deeply in love with a child and they reunify with their family, I believe the pain would be worth it.

A. Not at all / I haven’t thought about this B. Somewhat, but I feel unsure C. Mostly yes, with support D. Yes, I’ve thought deeply about this

I can support reunification even when it’s emotionally hard for me.

A. Not at all / I haven’t thought about this B. Somewhat, but I feel unsure C. Mostly yes, with support D. Yes, I’ve thought deeply about this

I understand that foster care exists primarily to help families heal, not to provide children for adoption.

A. Not at all / I haven’t thought about this B. Somewhat, but I feel unsure C. Mostly yes, with support D. Yes, I’ve thought deeply about this

I am prepared for a child to arrive with trauma-driven behaviors (lying, rage, withdrawal, food hoarding, etc.).

A. Not at all / I haven’t thought about this B. Somewhat, but I feel unsure C. Mostly yes, with support D. Yes, I’ve thought deeply about this

When a child’s behavior is challenging, I am more likely to ask, “What happened to you?” than “What’s wrong with you?”

A. Not at all / I haven’t thought about this B. Somewhat, but I feel unsure C. Mostly yes, with support D. Yes, I’ve thought deeply about this

I am willing to work with birth parents, caseworkers, therapists, and an agency—even when communication is messy or frustrating.

A. Not at all / I haven’t thought about this B. Somewhat, but I feel unsure C. Mostly yes, with support D. Yes, I’ve thought deeply about this

I have emotional support (spouse, friends, church, therapist, community) for myself when foster care feels overwhelming.

A. Not at all / I haven’t thought about this B. Somewhat, but I feel unsure C. Mostly yes, with support D. Yes, I’ve thought deeply about this

I am open to learning trauma-informed parenting techniques and adjusting how I parent.

A. Not at all / I haven’t thought about this B. Somewhat, but I feel unsure C. Mostly yes, with support D. Yes, I’ve thought deeply about this

I can accept ambiguity and uncertainty without needing full control of outcomes.

A. Not at all / I haven’t thought about this B. Somewhat, but I feel unsure C. Mostly yes, with support D. Yes, I’ve thought deeply about this

I am prepared for foster care to disrupt my schedule, privacy, routines, and expectations of “normal family life.”

A. Not at all / I haven’t thought about this B. Somewhat, but I feel unsure C. Mostly yes, with support D. Yes, I’ve thought deeply about this

I am willing to advocate for a child in schools, medical settings, and systems—even when it’s uncomfortable.

A. Not at all / I haven’t thought about this B. Somewhat, but I feel unsure C. Mostly yes, with support D. Yes, I’ve thought deeply about this

I understand that foster care may involve grief, goodbyes, and unanswered questions.

A. Not at all / I haven’t thought about this B. Somewhat, but I feel unsure C. Mostly yes, with support D. Yes, I’ve thought deeply about this

I can commit to loving a child fully, even if they are with me for a short time.

A. Not at all / I haven’t thought about this B. Somewhat, but I feel unsure C. Mostly yes, with support D. Yes, I’ve thought deeply about this

I am willing to receive correction, guidance, and accountability from professionals and my foster care agency.

A. Not at all / I haven’t thought about this B. Somewhat, but I feel unsure C. Mostly yes, with support D. Yes, I’ve thought deeply about this

I believe my home can be a place of safety, dignity, and healing—even when I feel inadequate.

A. Not at all / I haven’t thought about this B. Somewhat, but I feel unsure C. Mostly yes, with support D. Yes, I’ve thought deeply about this

Next step

If you’d like, we can talk through your results with kindness and clarity.

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